Somehow I (a computer guy, Hacker) started to think about the ways people live their live. What makes up a good life, what doesn’t, …
Probably around the time, I started to think about what to really do with my life… According to my daily Obsidian note from 2024-03-03 it all started from Shower Thoughts about Social Structure that day. I have watched Never have I ever (series) and some other series containing some Stereotypical Indian Family Culture. Having grown up in a Small Mountain Village in Tirol/Austria, there are similarities… We don’t have “the family” officially deciding who will marry whom, everyone has to find a partner for themselves, but parents/grandparents have a bit of a say, in case they don’t agree with someones partner choice. And I don’t find that to be too much of a bad thing, they have gone through more stages of life to have more experience for what to look for in a partner for your whole live. Anyway, I digress…
There is Stereotypical Indian Family Culture, with the most structure, then my kind of Village Families, … and if we go further to less structure, we eventually get to the most progressiv modern families, where kids are free to choose their Gender (in my family that would not be so easily ok)… and idk so much about that end of the spectrum, as it’s not how I’ve grown up.
Also I was (and still am) wondering about Where and Why Problems with People start to occur… And I get this feeling, that generally people with not “the strictest” but moderate and good Social Structure are not the ones causing problems.
With Stereotypical Indian Families or Village Families you not only have older people telling you that to do, not to do, what is good, … you also have a bunch of people (with more life experience) caring for you to have a good life.
The conclusion I came to is, that certain parts of a more rigid Social Structure/Family in your life are a really good thing for a good life.
Long long ago, humans lived in tribes of only few people (Humans were meant to life in small communities of like-minded people)…
One day around 2025-06-01 I found myself looking out my bedroom window, seeing many Single family homes or single family flats in houses… on their own private Land separated by about 4m gaps… wondering:
- Do all those people just live like this, because that’s how everyone else lives????
- Am I the only one, who would seek to live with around 20 to 120 ppl in one huge “housing thingy” (like an ancient tribe, large extended Family)????
- Or am I just crazy and will figure out in the Future, that this “single/split up” living is indeed the way to go… 🤷♂️